「溫故而知新,可以為師矣。」

 

孔子曾經說過:「三思而後行」我一直都對那句話有深深的疑問,直到那次,我終於明白到它的意思。我因心急和衝動,一時失去理智,沒有把事情想清楚再作決定,結果就是我自作自受……

記得那次,我和班中一羣男生,為了一些無聊的小事,我們討論了整個小息,不但得不到結論,反而令大家心裏存着芥蒂。我們都帶着這種不安的心情回家去。雖然我知道,只要我們大家讓一讓,忍一忍,這件事就不會變成一件大事,但我卻做不到。

第二天,我們又因為同一件傻事爭吵起來,大家吵得比昨天還要猛。情況變得更壞。終於我們都忍不住了,以暴力解決問題。我當時控制不住,失去了理性,沒有想到後果的嚴重性。我們你打我,我打他,像羣兇猛的野獸惡鬥。最後我們兩敗俱傷。結果大家都被老師處罰。

如果我們當初三思而後行,就不會做出這些傻事,招致這慘不忍睹的結果。這次的教訓,讓我終於明白到孔子教導的道理:遇到難關,必須三思而後行,多觀察丶多分析丶多思考後果,就可以大事變小事,小事化無了。

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